Fear Of Change And How To Overcome Anxiety (Stop Worrying!)

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Have you ever had the feeling that you just woke up from a long sleep and have no idea what is going on?

You look around you, and everything looks the same, but it just feels slightly off.

That is the place I am finding myself right now. Where am I and how did I get here?  I carry this immense fear of change!

Looking for inspiration?  Check out:  43 Quotes About Change In Life To Help You Get Results

When the Sandman Punches You In The Face

When I went to sleep, I thought I understood the world in which we live.  Ok, maybe not the world as a whole, but my place and my part in it.

I was comfortable in my little corner of the world, and why not?  I’ve lived in this corner for 45 years.  I was: born here, grew up here, got married here and raised two successful kids here, how could I not get comfortable?

This article isn’t a Rip Van Wrinkle type story, in which I run into some “Frat Bros” in the forest, party, and wake up 20 years in the future.

This “sleep” was more like slowly falling asleep in front of the tv;  you have bits and pieces of what is happening, you just can not put the whole story together if your life depended on it;  this is more of a fading out kind of sleep, and it is infinitely more dangerous.

Change and Other Such Animals

Change has a way of coming at us, sometimes slowly, other times incredibly fast, it doesn’t care about our feelings at all.  We can accept it and change with it, or be run over by it and left behind.

The first person who domesticated an animal to pull a plow, instead of doing it by hand, was laughed at by everyone else.  That is pretty standard, right?  Change looks ridiculous at first, but results speak volumes about the effectiveness of said change.

Don’t Be “That” Guy

Still, you know there was that one guy, standing there watching his neighbor, mumbling under his breath about how he was never going to change.  Saying how using animals to do work was wrong.  It just wasn’t natural, he wasn’t going to look stupid and anger the Gods!

Despite seeing the benefits with his own eyes, he refused to accept the outcome.

(He died, just saying: Don’t be that guy.)

The world is changing, you must change with it or you will find yourself in a different place and have no idea where you are or how you got there.

You can’t just click your heels together three times and your world change back. I know this because occasionally I try.

The Amazon Is A Large and Wonderous Place

The world has changed a lot it the last 20 years; I have not kept up with the changes.  I’ve watched Amazon go from an online bookstore to the massive retail giant it is today.

I saw it changing, but did not put the change I saw happening into the perspective of how it was going to change my life.

My work is a typical retail job.  Can you guess how Amazon is affecting my current position?  We are playing catch up, and no one wants to be the one behind.

Still Sleeping

It was not only in my work life that I failed to keep up with the changing technology.  I failed outside of work as well.

Of course, I know how to surf the Internet, but almost every five year old in America knows how to do that as well.

So how have I kept up?  Did learn to code? Nope. Did I learn how to use Facebook? Nope.

(And for those of you out there wondering do you have to learn to use Facebook? The answer is yes, yes you do.)

Did I take any college classes? Watch YouTube videos on how to do damn near anything? No. Did I even bother to read a how-to magazine? No.

One Little Thing

My only concession to entering the digital age was reading digital books on Amazon.  I even fought that for the longest time.

Mistakingly thinking that reading a digital edition was not as good as reading a hard copy of a book.

I do understand the arguments against it, you like the smell and the feel and comfort of a hard copy book.  I agree, there is nothing quite like all those things.

But what I found in digital books was the same love of words, the same love of a good story that I found in a hard copy.  The only real difference was the expanse of possibilities that digital books provided.

The first author that I found on digital books that really opened my eyes to the digital book world was Hugh Howey.

Howey’s, Silo series and Molly Fyde series showed me the power of independent creators and the Internet.

Where Do You Want To Be?

Our circumstances or location no longer bind us, we are only bound by the limitations we put on ourselves.  And that shit right there is the terrifying part.

So this is where I find myself right now with Heather.

Trying to learn so many new things. Trying to get myself out of this little corner of the world I put myself and reach for something more.

It is a lot to learn in a short time, but as I said earlier, you either change or you get run over and left behind.  So I am playing catch up, at 45 it seems like a lot to learn after being stagnant for so long.

But is it possible?  Of course.  But like damn near anything else in life it is up to us to change ourselves.

Along the way, you may have to put up with some people making fun of you for using an animal to pull your plow.  That is just life right?

But if you are committed to change, you can and will show them what is indeed possible.

Here are some of the steps Heather and I have taken to change ourselves and our circumstances.

Always Find Your Why

As Heather says, you need to find your Why?

Why are you trying to change? What is it driving you to reach for something more, something new?

Is it your job going in a direction in which you are unsure of having a job anymore?  Have your kids moved out, and you are looking for something to help with early retirement?  Or are you just looking for a place to learn something new and try out this Internet thing?

Whichever it is, finding out your Why is essential to long-term success.

And How

Now you have your “Why,” what is your how? How do you want to express yourself to the world? There are so many ways to do this these days, it can be hard to choose. Here are a few ideas.

Do you like being in front of a camera?  Try starting a YouTube channel.

Do you have a good voice but don’t like to be seen by people?  You might want to try a podcast.

For us, we chose to start a blog.  Writing seems to be a more natural way to communicate for us.

Is it easy? Hell no. Anyone who thinks this is easy to start is nuts.  It takes a lot of work, please don’t kid yourself on that, you are going to have to put a lot of work into it.

What To Do, What To Do

“Why” and “how” are easy, now you have to determine your “what?”  “What” area are you going to invest your time?  Find your interest and run with that.

Do you like old cars, make videos, do interviews or write about that.  Gardening, childcare, cooking, home repair, animal care, whatever your interest make that your focus.

Put part of who you are and what you believe in, into what you do.  That passion will show through no matter what you do.

Do Not Pass Go

When should you start?  Six months ago! Six Years ago? In other words, do it NOW. Today is your day to start. You have waited too long already.  I know that I did, and I can tell you it is hell to play catch up.  Start now, or as soon as possible.  Learn everything you can from any source you can.

For Whom The Bell Tolls

The “who” is the easiest and the hardest part.

You are the “who.”

There is no one else that can decide for you. You either start, or you don’t.  You may like your little corner of the world and don’t want to change, and we here at Empty Nestin’ support your decision; happiness, after all, is the end goal here.

But I have a feeling that if you are reading this you are looking for something more, and we, of course, are willing to help.

Come along with us as we learn to navigate this new digital world, learn from our mistakes, and profit from our successes.

And as always, leave us your comment so we can learn from our mistakes and enjoy any nice things you may have to say.

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