How to Overcome Fear and Change Your Life Through Adversity

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Do you find yourself stagnant in your life? You want more are but too afraid to try.  Comfortable and safe, we forget the challenges we faced when we were young, and first starting out, helped us to become who we are now.  We need to overcome fear and change your life.

Picture this.  You go to work one day; you’re stuck in traffic on the way there.  Walking into work late, and your boss is standing there demanding to know why you are late again.

Your day seems to go downhill from there.  Your computer seems extra glitchy; the coffee is burnt, the work keeps piling up on your desk.  And to top it all off Janet in the next cubicle will not stop smacking her gum!

Damn it, Janet!  Have a little respect for yourself, and if you can’t do that, at least have some respect for those that have to tolerate your obnoxious sound!

You can’t wait to get away from your ridiculous job and go home and sit on the couch with a beer and unwind by watching some TV.  Maybe the mind-numbing sound of canned laughter and empty content will drown out the sounds of Janet!

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Imagined adversity

Ever notice how when things seem to go wrong in our lives they keep going more and more wrong?

Of course, we can always blame it on Janet, but we know it isn’t Janet’s fault. We find it easier to blame someone else for our problems.

It is harder to look at ourselves in the mirror and take responsibility for our happiness, our sense of well being.

It is easier to grumble in another traffic jam on the way home. We are complaining to ourselves the whole trip about how if only our lives were different.

If only the traffic would move faster; or our boss was more helpful; the weather was better, you had a new computer, the coffee wasn’t bad.

There is always another if only in life; other people at work would work harder; your workload would be more manageable.

And God help us!  If only Janet would chew quietly, life would be perfect.  One hundred ten percent guaranteed.

Avoiding the reality of your actions

So go home, turn off your brain and let the endless noise of the TV drag you into another day of anger at other people and complacency in your own life.

Let the overacted, over-inflated hype of fake lives lull you into the same old routine you have followed for so long.  Get carried away in the “real” lives of fake people.

You are not responsible for how you feel about each day.  It isn’t your fault things go wrong.  How are you supposed to know the traffic is going to be bad every morning?

It isn’t your fault your boss is so mad you are late every day, he should be more understanding of your feelings.

Sail away on the broadcast waves of pointless entertainment. Let the responsibility of your life be decided by a team of writers dedicated to separating you from your money with endless advertisements.

Clear the noise from your life and overcome fear

Companies spend millions of dollars trying to get you to give your money to them voluntarily.  How long will you continue to hand them your money and more importantly your time?

Time is one of the only things you have limits on.  You can work 100 hours a week or you can make millions of dollars, but you can never produce more time.

Your time on this almost round blue little ball is limited, and it always has been.

It is up to you to decide what you are going to do with your time.  Are you going to waste your life in an endless cycle of trading your time for a few dollars?  Then go home watch tv and spend those hard earn dollars on cheap empty purchases?

Or will you make the decision to turn your life in a new direction?  A better course.  One that empowers you to seek the best in yourself, the best you can be as a person.

Can you clear the noise from your life long enough to see a better and brighter future?

Building a better you

We always like to romanticize the past, saying how much better it was twenty, thirty or forty years ago.  This may or may not be true.  All we can live in is the now, and well the now is not so stable.

Companies rise and fall in a seemingly endless procession.  Your company which was doing so great last year is now struggling, and what is most often the easiest way for a company to cut cost?  They cut jobs.

What do you want out of your life?  Do you want to live a healthier life? To learn a new skill? Get a promotion?  Pay off your debt?

Or maybe you have made the decision, like Heather, and I have, to start in an entirely new direction in your life.

Whatever your choice is, making your decision is the key to creating the future you want.  Change won’t happen without choosing a direction.

Without knowing where you want to go there is no way to figure out which way to go to get there.

So figure out your WHY, your DIRECTION or your JOURNEY.  Whatever you want to call it, figure it out. Write it down.  Deciding this is the most crucial step, identify your end goal.

Starting with your goal work backward

When you have your why set in your mind, and the goal you are aiming for is staring you in the face.

Now work backward.  If you know where you are going to end up, trace your way back to where you are now.  What are the obstacles in your way to get from point A, where you are now,  to point B, where you want to be?

Is it money keeping you from reaching point B?  Then your new goal is figuring out how to make more money and save it so you can achieve your goal.

Lack of knowledge holding you back?  Use any resource you can find to learn whatever it is you need to do to reach your goal.

The only thing holding you back is you.

Everyone comes to a point in their life when they want to quit.  But it’s what you do at that moment that determines who you are. – David Goggins

Change is hard, staying the same is deadly

Complacency.  Comfort.  Average.

These three words have the potential to be the hardest thing to get over in the changing of you.

We have done the work to get where we are in life.  Put lots of hours into our jobs, our families, our homes.  We tend to want to stay right where we are and enjoy these things.

We tell ourselves it will only be for a minute, for an hour, for a week.

Then before we know it, the weeks have added up to months, and the months to years, and we are no farther in our life than we were years ago.

The human mind craves comfort, for with comfort comes a sense of safety.  We like to feel safe.  To feel like we belong at this moment, in this place and it can stay the same forever.

But change happens whether we want it to or not.

If we do not prepare for those changes, we will be left behind when they happen, and playing catch up is so much harder than doing the work to stay ahead. Change is hard; remaining the same can be deadly.

Seek inspiration, and get more out of life

Once you make the decision to change your life, the hard work starts.  Wanting more out of your life is easy.  Reaching your goal is going to take hard work and dedication on your part.  No one can make the decision for you, nor can they force you to follow through.  It is all up to you. Seek what inspires you.

Luckily for us these days, we have the internet.  You don’t even have to look for ways to waste your time, but by doing just a little bit of research, you can find so many good ways to keep you inspired.


Doing a quick Youtube search for motivational speakers will yield thousands of results.  Narrow it down from there. There are hundreds of different topics to inspire and motivate you no matter what your goal is.  From facing adversity to weight loss, the help you need to stay focused is out there.


Tired of watching television? Try doing to the same search on Amazon for motivational books.  Whatever you need to motivate you, it is there.  Need unconventional inspiration? Try Unf*uck Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and Into Your Life, by Gary John Bishop.

Looking for something more mainstream? Try,  Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins.

The list is endless; a little searching will reveal thousands of people who have distilled their success into an easily portable guide to inspire and motivate you.

We all learn from different mediums, choose which one inspires you the most and use it to motivate you past your fears.

You find what you’re looking for

If all you focus on is why you shouldn’t do something, or what you are afraid of you will never rise above where you are.

Look for all the possibilities that are around you, and strive to improve not only your situation but yourself as well.

Overcoming your fears creates personal growth, so use your adversity to propel yourself beyond your fear.

You are the only person who has the power to change yourself, only you know what your fears are. Whether they are real or imagined your fears can be holding you back.  Fight past them and create a new and better you.

You are the only person who has the power

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